It's time ladies! The time has finally come. It's our time to take our power back and be in control. To face the world straight on with no fear or apprehension. We do not know what tomorrow holds but our excitement and curiousity will not allow us to hold back and sit back in fear, afraid that if we venture out our world as we know it will change for ever or worse what we know is all a lie. It's time to say I know what I need and deserve )
I am relatively young and quite inexperienced for my age but I catch on quick and I am a good observer so I know I make up for my lack of experience with my quick observation and listening skills. It seems like the conversation most women are having these days is about men. Someone might say what are you talking about? Women have been talking about men since man was created and men have been doing the same. However, as a young woman, at my age, the importance of men in a womans live has become more and more prevelant than it was to me a few years ago when my only priority time in life was to make it through school with flying colors. As I watch several young women embark on their life journey with a man,I can't help but hear the same thing over and over again. "I do not know where it went wrong?We were smooth sailing a day ago and now its come to a complete halt.What do I have to do to keep him in my life?"
Ladies I beleive its time we learnt to let go. No I do not say at the sign you should pack up and leave but when the relationship has run its course and at this point there is really no way of reviving the relationship its time to say, I did what I can, my time has come and I am ready to see what the world has to offer. I believe that most of us stay because its all we know. We dont know what the world holds for us and quite frankly its better to stay in misery than to move on and explore what life has to offer. Sometimes it could be the fear of admitting that something we put all our effort into has failed and failure is one word in my life I really could do without.
How is putting your all into a relationship that did not work out deemed as failure? Quite frankly in my humble opinion its a success because you were able to maintain a relationship for a period of time that brought you joy yet pain and you came out still standing. That is success to me. Going through the elements and still being able to walk away when the time has come. Women its time we took our power back. Its time we knew when to walk away and live life not knowing what to expect but are excited at the possiblities.
A friend of mine told me, "there is nothing you can't do if you put your mind to it. If you are put on a plane and your only way off it was to jump or else you crash, you will jump not knowing what to expect when you jump but it sure is better than dying" Yes it is sure better than dying because there is a 50% chance that you will land on soft ground and that is far better than knowing you are going to do for sure.
I also believe that we as women do not know our own abilities. We are so set in our ways that we do not believe we could branch away and do something different when the time comes. We are all strong. There is nothing that we cannot withstand and survive through it...we just need to learn to let go.
Single ladies I believe we must also know our strength and what we deserve. Yes at times it may seem like we are destined to singledom and the only way we can get out of it is settle for the next best thing. It gets lonely at night when all you want is a warm body to cuddle with or someone to call you and remind you how beautiful you are. As nice as all those things seem how long does it last till we are singing with our not so single sisters that relationships are not as glamourous as they should be but at least we have a man. Why do we continue to subject ourselves to hurtful and painful relationships just to have someone. Why do we allow ourselves to be treated as second class citizens if that means we at least have someone who knows our names. Why do we give and give and are okay with not getting anything in return but the minute we do get something we think that man is the greatest person in the world for his first and only measly attempt to make you smile.
I know its hard and I know its lonely but the minute we take our power back and we learn our self worth there is nothing and no one who can stand up against us. Love yourself and the love will come to you. Learn to expect the best and you will receive the best.
Well said Kaks. Being in a relationship is a whole lot of work which comes with it ups and downs. You just have to know when to cut ur losses. From personal experience i can say it is definitely NOT easy to walk away especially when you really love the person and you so badly want things to work out but at the end of the day both parties have to be on the same page. One person alone cannot carry the relationship through. Like you said it all comes down to self worth. You have to know what your limits are: what are you willing to put up with and how much are u willing to compromise. Once it gets to the point where u r compromising so much you begin to lose yourself and begin to go against what you believe in that’s when u really need to walk away. It’s easier said than done but trust me everyone has it in them to do so. It’s not easy in the beginning but over time, with prayer and the help of God and loved ones you start healing and realize that there is a better world out there for you. I thank God for my experience b’cos it’s opened up my eyes to what I truly deserve and until then I’m proudly a part of singledom. Yes, it does get lonely sometimes but I’ld take that any day over being in an unhappy/unhealthy relationship.
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